Who am I?

How do you introduce your self at the party?

How do you answer who you are, what you do?

Or better yet.

Have you ever asked your self who you are?

Do you have a feeling that crowd is going in one direction but you aren't:

Big deal you're different. Thank god (and our parents) that we're all different. The world would be so, so boring if we were all the same.

Chameleons

In the last few years, I've been discovering over and over who I am. What I realised is that:

Every person is a bit of a chameleon.

We change skins, roles all the time. In some, we feel more comfortable than in others. It can help if we can identify who we are.

We are all hot mess underneath the surface

When you meet me, you might get the wrong impression that I'm a confident guy who has it all figured out. But I'm not.

I doubt my self and all of my moves all the time, every day. I'm obsessed with what I do, how I do it and what that signals. It's not super healthy, but hey, that's me 🤓

Once I learned how to better deal with who I am and my emotions, I realised that many people around me were also emotionally insecure.

They weren't dealing with their personal shit. They would lose it in front of their colleges, spouses, kids, friends.

Those are the ones I write for. Ones that don't have all the answers yet.

But I also write for the others, others that seem to have it together. Always calm, clear-minded. Don't be fooled they have their own demons to, they just don't wash all their dirty laundry in public or haven't admitted out loud that they have fears, secrets, ...

Labels?

I thought I was great at "analysing" others. In scouting as a leader, I would always try to figure out what type of people my team members were. The scientific monkey in me strived to classify and slap labels around. After some self-reflection, I began to realise how unfair labelling is.

Yet we all do it. Every time we meet someone, we start making a mental image. Then after we get to know them, we usually change our perspective.

These days when I meet new people, I don't tell them all aspects of my story. I sometimes "forget" to mention what I do, that I'm a physicist.

Then curiously watch their response when I tell them something that shatters the mental image they created about me. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for worse.

But to shape the story, we tell the people we meet; we need a deeper understanding of who we are. When I started visiting the personal coach, all I could come up with was that I'm a physicist and a scout. Two labels.

Over the years, I discovered that besides being a physicist and a scout, I was also ordered, minimalist, introvert, a matcher, creative and analytic thinker, ...

While figuring out my way, I came across a few concepts that helped me better describe my identity. Which ones?

What we covered so far?

By associating my interests with appropriate words, I managed to find others that shared my interests. You're probably curious too, that's why you're here. So read on:

• Are you a movie addict? I am 🙋
• Do you challenge conventional thinking?
• Are you a zen master?
• Are you a productivity ninja?
• Are you a productivity ninja-level II?
• Are you organised or disorganised?
• Are you juggling between creativity freak and productivity ninja?
• Are you a focused knowledge worker?
• Are you a FOMO or JOMO?
• Are you a minimalist ? Or trying to become one and need resources .
• Are you an Essentialist ?

Is that all? Far from it.

What we'll cover in the future?

• Are you a positive procrastinator? 🙋
• Are you a conventional or open-minded thinker?
• Are you a control freak? 🙋
• Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
• Are you a leader?
• Are you a runner?
• Are you a writer?
• Are you a photographer?
• Are you a creator?
• Are you an analyst? A person that tears apart every decision.
• Are you a Giver, Taker or Matcher?
• Are you an analytical or creative thinker?
• Are you a workaholic? 🙋

And many more. Usually, you'll figure out that you are somewhere in between. In some situations, you are extroverted in other introverted.

Sometimes the fear of missing out (FOMO) will eat you up in the other cases you'll experience the joy of missing out (JOMO).

Our personalities are split, they change, and that's OK. Apparently, humans are wired and not as easily describable as physics phenomena 🥺

Suppose that you know any other classifications. Please let me know about them in the feedback section below 👇